Rules & Venue Guide

• Sanctum Eros is 21+ only.
• Attend only through the access process listed for that event. Membership-required events require an active approved membership; public socials may allow non-member RSVPs.
• Membership approval does not guarantee admission to every event and is not an endorsement or guarantee of any attendee.
• Do not bring unregistered guests or add someone to your RSVP without approval.
• The venue address is private. Do not post, forward, screenshot, pin, or otherwise share the address or location details with anyone who has not received them directly through Sanctum Eros.
• Remain in the designated arrival/check-in area until check-in and any required orientation or acknowledgment are complete.

• Consent must be informed, voluntary, specific, and ongoing. It may be withdrawn at any time.
• Previous play, flirting, nudity, a relationship, a title, a collar, membership, or being inside the dungeon never creates consent.
• Negotiate the scene you are actually having: activities, limits, relevant risks, safewords or nonverbal signals, and aftercare as appropriate.
• A request to stop is followed immediately. If RED, STOP, or SAFEWORD is called clearly, treat it as an immediate stop or request for outside attention unless staff can clearly determine otherwise.
• Consensual non-consent or resistance play does not remove the responsibility to establish an unambiguous way to stop the scene.
• Someone who cannot meaningfully consent cannot begin or continue a scene.

• Do not touch another person, their clothing, collar, mobility aid, toys, rope, implements, or other belongings without permission.
• Watching a scene is allowed when you give it space. Do not crowd, narrate, heckle, coach, sexualize aloud, or insert yourself into a scene you were not invited into.
• Do not join, assist, restrain, strike, photograph, record, or otherwise participate in another person's scene without a direct invitation from the people involved.
• Do not interfere with an active scene unless immediate safety requires intervention. If you are concerned but there is no immediate emergency, get event staff or a Dungeon Monitor.
• Give people room when a scene ends. Aftercare, drop, decompression, and private check-ins are not an invitation for spectators to approach.

• Phones stay downstairs unless an approved exception applies or a private closed-door scene specifically allows a consented photo.
• Do not photograph, video, livestream, audio-record, or capture another attendee without their explicit permission. Keep unrelated attendees and identifying details out of frame.
• Do not publicly identify someone as a Sanctum Eros attendee, kink community member, play partner, relationship partner, or participant in a particular scene without their permission.
• Do not share screenshots that reveal the private address, guest list, member information, event access details, or another person's private Portal information.
• Medical, caregiving, emergency, and legitimate on-call phone exceptions are available; ask event staff.

• Sanctum Eros is alcohol-free. Alcohol is not permitted at the venue.
• Arrive and remain able to make decisions, communicate boundaries, and participate safely.
• Impairment can come from substances, medication, exhaustion, illness, or any other condition. The issue is capacity and safety, not what caused it.
• Anyone too impaired to meaningfully consent or participate safely may be denied entry, removed from play, or asked to leave.
• Staff may stop participation whenever impairment creates a safety or consent concern.

• Playrooms are for negotiation, setup, scenes, cleanup, and immediate aftercare—not extended socializing.
• Use equipment only when you understand how to use it safely. Inspect what you use before beginning and ask when you are unsure.
• Do not alter anchor points, structural hardware, suspension points, furniture, or venue equipment without permission.
• Clean applicable shared equipment after use and return communal items where they belong. Use barriers when appropriate for bodily fluids.
• If blood, broken skin, bodily fluids, vomit, or another biohazard contaminates a surface, notify staff so it can be handled and disinfected correctly.
• Report damaged, unstable, contaminated, or malfunctioning equipment instead of quietly leaving it for the next person.

Some activities create additional risk for participants, bystanders, the property, or shared equipment.

• Notify the event lead or on-duty Dungeon Monitor before beginning blood play, needle play, cutting or other sharps play, fire play, electrical play, suspension, breath/airway-related play, consensual non-consent scenes, or another activity that reasonably creates elevated venue risk.
• Notification is not staff approval of your negotiation, skill, or consent. Participants remain responsible for those decisions.
• Staff or the DM may set reasonable location, barrier, cleanup, spotter, or other venue precautions—or decline an activity—when necessary for the space.
• Used sharps go only into an appropriate sharps container. Never place needles or blades loose in ordinary trash.
• Keep emergency-release tools accessible when the activity requires them.

• Scenes are limited to 30 minutes.
• Up to an additional 30 minutes may be used for aftercare. When practical, move extended recovery to the designated aftercare area so playrooms remain available.
• When a play space uses a sign-up list, use the physical whiteboard outside that room. Online room reservations are not used. Sign-ups use 30-minute blocks, and an additional block is only available when nobody else has already claimed it.
• Do not monopolize a room with belongings, conversation, or an inactive setup when others are waiting.
• When your room time is complete, clean and reset the space for the next person.

• Event staff and Dungeon Monitors may pause or stop activity when there is an immediate safety, consent, privacy, or venue-operation concern.
• Follow safety-related directions in the moment. Questions or concerns about the intervention can be addressed afterward.
• If staff directs people to clear a room, move equipment, stop a scene, leave the venue, or contact emergency services, comply promptly.
• Anyone may call attention to an immediate emergency. For non-immediate concerns, get event staff or a DM rather than escalating the scene yourself.
• Keep exits, stairs, halls, and access to safety supplies clear.

• Harassment, stalking, intimidation, discriminatory or hateful conduct, coercion, theft, deliberate property damage, and intentionally unsafe behavior are not permitted.
• Respect rejection immediately. “No,” “not interested,” and similar answers do not require an explanation and are not invitations to keep asking.
• Do not retaliate against anyone for setting a boundary, declining play, reporting a concern, participating in an Internal Affairs review, or supporting someone who does.
• Good-faith reports are welcome even when the facts are incomplete or the concern is ultimately unsubstantiated. An unsubstantiated report is not automatically a false report.
• Knowingly fabricating evidence or deliberately submitting a report you know to be false may itself be treated as misconduct.

• Safety, consent, privacy, conduct, or venue-security concerns may result in a scene being stopped, removal from an event, restricted status, suspension, or loss of access.
• Removal from an event may occur without refund when necessary to protect the event or venue.
• A report, staff intervention, or temporary restriction does not by itself establish that misconduct occurred.
• Internal Affairs and access reviews are handled privately. Outcomes may include no action, guidance, restrictions, temporary suspension, or permanent loss of access.
• Paid supporter status, Established Member status, staff familiarity, popularity, or prior attendance does not override safety or access decisions.

• Kink, BDSM, sexual activity, and adult events can involve physical, emotional, and psychological risks.
• Each person is responsible for deciding what they participate in, communicating boundaries, assessing their own abilities, and choosing partners for themselves.
• Sanctum Eros membership review does not certify another person's skill, character, compatibility, or safety as a play partner.
• Sanctum Eros cannot eliminate every risk. Current venue rules and event-specific requirements apply whenever you attend.
• Do not treat attendance, flirting, prior play, titles, or relationships as permission to touch, join, or change the terms of an interaction.